Fated to Fail – Will I ever succeed?

Feeling fated to fail is an unhappy, common feeling. I felt that way for a big part – maybe most – of my life. And there’s a cure.

What do you do when projects fail even though you’ve done everything right? Or when you do everything you can, but someone else fails to perform or outright torpedoes you? I’ve asked these questions dozens of times. I asked them every time a project failed because I wanted there to be something, someone, other than me to blame for things going wrong.

The hardest lesson I’ve ever learned is that I’m Continue reading

Beating Back Bullies – Why Surviving is NOT Thriving

I recently read Dr. Richard Carlson’s book Don’t Get Scrooged: How to Thrive in a World Full of Obnoxious, Incompetent, Arrogant, and Downright Mean-Spirited People. It’s a sad little book.

Let me share a review I posted on www.GoodReads.com, and I’ll close with a healthy dose of Cranium Ex Rectum for all of us.

Don't Get Scrooged: How to Thrive in a World Full of Obnoxious, Incompetent, Arrogant, and Downright Mean-Spirited PeopleDon’t Get Scrooged: How to Thrive in a World Full of Obnoxious, Incompetent, Arrogant, and Downright Mean-Spirited People
by Richard Carlson

My rating: 1 of 5 stars

There are some pieces in this book I am glad to see. The practice of “Sing Your Way to Happiness” definitely works. I was once standing at a transit station with girlfriend. It was cold, and near Christmas. Folks were grumbling because the bus was late.

As we waited, I sang “Do You Hear What I Hear” for my girlfriend. I sang gently because Continue reading

Lose Self-Imposed Limits

Our self-image defines and limits our possibilities. The only way to lose self-imposed limits is by changing the self-image.
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So what is the self-image? It’s your sub-conscious picture of who you are, what you’re capable of, and what you deserve. We make it from things we’ve been told about ourselves, past experiences, and beliefs we’ve developed about ourselves.

We all have real limits. You might be great at Continue reading

Psycho-Cybernetics Impact – Who I am in 2013

The name “psycho-cybernetics” doesn’t turn my crank. The psycho-cybernetics impact on my life makes me more tolerant of the name.

conrad-silas-on-bridge-281x281Today is my birthday, and I’m looking back at 47 years of living. There are happy, sad, negative, positive, angry, and joyful memories. While talking with Sandi after the writer’s workshop, I told her I cherish all the memories. Sure, there’s a natural part of me that would like to have skipped over the bad stuff, but I recognise and appreciate that I would not be the man I am without ALL of my experiences.

The most important, on-going experience is Continue reading

6 Master Keys to Peak Performance

Six Master Keys

Six Master Keys

Everyone wants Peak Performance. We want to beat the competition, grab the brass ring, and have everyone see us as successful, right? But what happens if our best use of peak performance is to live a happy, confident, and satisfied life?

You see, I think the two go hand in hand. There’s not much point being Willie Robertson or Willie Nelson, if you’re not happy. Whether your goal is to be a better parent, make more money, or just have more friends, these 6 master keys

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Dr. Maxwell Maltz and Psycho-Cybernetics

Psycho-cybernetics sounds like something from the Borg and Star Trek, right? It was decades ahead of every other concept of self-development when Dr. Maltz developed it in the 1950’s. But it isn’t science fiction. It’s a real, practical way for us to achieve happiness and self-confidence.

Maxwell Maltz’s First Career

Dr. Maltz started as a plastic surgeon. Plastic surgery was a new, almost unheard of

Dr. Maxwell Maltz

Dr. Maxwell Maltz

medical discipline, in the 1930’s. Maltz even had to travel to Europe to complete his training.

As he treated patients, Maltz removed scars and gave people the new, beautiful faces they wanted. Yet he also noticed that some people had no change in how they saw themselves. The physical scar was removed, but some Continue reading

7 Most Powerful Self-Image Strength Training Words

My self-image controls all the sub-conscious choices that determine my behavior and body language. Self-image strength training gives me an edge for getting happy.

When my self-image is strong and positive, I perform well at school or work, get along well with others, and frequently achieve my goals. A weak self-image broadcasts itself as timidity, lack of confidence, and even self-loathing.

First, let me share the seven most powerful words for self-image strength training. Then we’ll look at three simple components of self-image strength training.

7 Most Powerful Self-Image Strength Training Words

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Holidays Alone – Is There a Good Side?

Inviting someone to spend a holiday with your family is not always the kindhearted act you think it is. Sometimes that holiday kindness hurts.

You already know my family was a less-than-positive environment. I was the third child in a family with two children, and never allowed to forget it. So you can be sure that the holidays were not a particularly joyous thing. Sure, we celebrated Christmas, Thanksgiving, Halloween, and other holidays. For me, every one of them was laced with Continue reading

Self-image – 3 Steps to Personal Transformation

We all have a self-image: an idea of who we are that we hold in our minds. For most of us, that self-image is a lie.

We lie by telling ourselves we cannot change. We’ve all said it at some point – “That’s just the way I am.” Right? And every time we say it, we feel the sting of defeat.

It isn’t that we haven’t tried to change. We set goals, plan our days, get accountability partners, and yet we can’t seem to Continue reading